eddy, i can only admire you for your fortitude and stoic handling of this.
i would have gone to pieces long ago.

god bless you all, and my thoughts and prayers go withyou.
neil.

Quote from: neil howard-pritchard on April 22, 2011, 06:17:39 AM
eddy, i can only admire you for your fortitude and stoic handling of this.
i would have gone to pieces long ago.

god bless you all, and my thoughts and prayers go withyou.
neil.

Cheers Neil,

Beleive me I've had my moments trying to come to terms with everything! It's been a rough few weeks, and we have a long way still to go.... But the bottom line is you have to deal with these things and make the most out of it. That isn't always easy!

It's just cost me almost £400 to get a bed that was priced at £250 - YES, thats a total ripoff, but it was the only company that would gaurantee to deliver tomorrow, and come hell or high water, Roz IS coming home tomorrow! We probably have very little time left together, so a mere thing like money is NOT going to prevent that!

Eddy

Roz is now at home.... At least until next wednesday, providing we can cope and as long as it's safe for her to be here!

Bearing in mind that I've only ever seen her lying in a hospital bed for the last 3 weeks, I was surprised to see just how poor her walking has become in that time, she would be unable to stand and take a couple of steps on her own! In fact she fell off the hospital bed when getting dressed to come home, and that was with a nurse helping her! Her abdomen is also badly distended. The confusion is as bad as ever, and she's still struggling to find her words...

I just hope this is a bad day, and after a good nights rest she improves tomorrow. I have to admit that I'm concerned that things have become so much worse so quickly!

Eddy

Sadly Roz got steadily worse over the weekend - Her ability to walk has almost gone, so just getting her to the bathroom was a major problem. Her speech has also got significantly worse over the last few days, and last night I was unable to control the pain that was giving her a headache, so we both sat up all night....

This morning I took Roz back to the hospital as something had to be done to ease her pain - Her neurologist came to see her while I was there, and he was surprised to see just how quickly Roz had deteriorated.

She has been moved to a sideroom on her own, and given morphine. I also met the Doctor who is head of the palliative care team, and tomorrow I have to see the rest of his team and the McMillan nurses, so it's obvious what is happening! An extremely upsetting day all round

I hope things can be arranged so that Roz can be cared for at home, but I'm not sure if that will be possible? We also have a severely mentally and physically handicapped daughter, so I also have to care for her. Not that I'm complaining, far from it!, but it does add to the problems we have to deal with.

That's enough for tonight, I need to get my head round all of this.....

Eddy

prayers go with you eddy, god bless you.
neil.

Believe me Eddy all of us on here ar thinking and praying for the Matthews family. You've had a lot to contend with over the years and you've done that with fortitude. Anything that we can assist you with you know what to do "Ask" and it will be given in any way we can.

Jim

I've just back from visiting my wife in hospital.... Her neurologist came in for a chat while I was there. Roz has now been put on "end of life care", which basically means she probably only has days left, and the doctors will not do anything to prolong life. They will simply keep her as comfortable and pain free as possible...

That's it for now, I simply don't have the words to express how I feel

Eddy

we'll all be thinking of you Eddy....take care and god bless.
neil.

Yet again, my thanks for everyones kind words, either in this post, via PM's or emails.... Your comments and support are all appreciated, but I just cannot respond to each one personally as it's too upsetting!

Regards
Eddy

My thoughts go out to you Eddy.  May God give you strength.

Ken

Sadly Roz passed away just before 1pm today....

I was there with my daughter Gillian, and Roz's mum Maureen, so we got to say our goodbyes. At least Roz is now free from pain.

God bless sweetheart,
Eddy

Our deepest condolence to you and your family!

Beate + Hans

Quote from: Eddy Matthews on May 07, 2011, 12:40:21 AM
Sadly Roz passed away just before 1pm today....

I was there with my daughter Gillian, and Roz's mum Maureen, so we got to say our goodbyes. At least Roz is now free from pain.

God bless sweetheart,
Eddy

Eddy
My condolences to you and your family. I'm glad you could all be there to say goodbye.

Andy

Eddy,
Deepest condolences to you and your family at this time.

Clark

Eddy,
My condolences to yourself and your family at this time.

Ian